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Let’s face it, as busy women, we often feel the pressure to be constantly productive. We juggle work, family, and personal commitments, and it can feel like there’s never enough time in the day. But what if I told you that being constantly busy might not be as beneficial as you think?

The Illusion of Productivity

In today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that being busy is a sign of success. We often equate busyness with productivity, but the truth is that being busy for the sake of being busy can be counterproductive.

I recently realised this myself. Despite having a relatively quiet morning with the kids off to their new schools, I found myself at my computer, procrastinating and avoiding tasks. I was busy, but not necessarily productive.

The Benefits of Balance

Here’s what I learned from this experience:

1. Transitioning takes time: It’s okay to take a few days to adjust to new routines. Don’t feel pressured to hit the ground running.
2. Trust your systems: If you’ve put systems and processes in place to streamline your life, trust that they’re working. You don’t need to micromanage every detail.
3. You’ve already proven yourself: If you’re a hard worker, you don’t need to constantly prove it. You’ve earned the right to take a break or enjoy a hobby.

Prioritising Pleasure Over Productivity

Instead of waiting for a reward at the end of the day, why not prioritise pleasure and self-care? For me, a bike ride was the perfect way to recharge and find balance.

Here’s why prioritising pleasure can benefit you:

Finding Your Own Balance

The key to finding balance is to identify what works best for you. Experiment with different strategies until you find a routine that supports your well-being and productivity.

Remember:

• You’re not alone: Many women struggle with finding balance.
• It’s okay to say no: Don’t overcommit yourself. Learn to prioritise and say no to things that don’t align with your goals.
• Seek support: If you’re feeling overwhelmed, don’t hesitate to reach out to friends, family, or a therapist.

By finding balance in your busy life, you’ll be better equipped to handle challenges, achieve your goals, and enjoy a more fulfilling life.

If you feel that you might need a bit of help to find more balance in your life too, book in for a free Discovery Call with me. It doesn’t matter whether you choose to go ahead and work with me or not, my aim is for you to be clearer about what you do need in your life.

It’s been a while since I’ve written a blog, and for a good reason.

I am a hypnotherapist and life coach, and I do practise what I preach; however I recently faced a bout of burnout – again. Even though I spend my days helping others navigate these very issues, I managed to let burnout creep up on me as I got caught up in the “Superwoman” cycle.

The pandemic played a part, of course. While we were fortunate in many ways – we managed to avoid serious illness and we do live in a beautiful place that was a pleasure to be locked down in; the constant uncertainty, juggling work and childcare alongside online learning (definitely not the same as home educating!), as well as the financial strain took a big toll.

Superwoman swooped in, determined to keep everything afloat.

The problem? Superwoman is exhausting. She thrives on “keeping on,” but neglects the need for rest and replenishment. And as I’ve entered my 50s, that bounce-back from burnout I used to have just isn’t there anymore.

It wasn’t until I attended the One Woman Conference recently that it all hit me. Surrounded by this incredible energy, I realized just how “effing hard” the past four years have been. And while a part of me is proud of what I’ve accomplished, another part craved kindness. Kindness to myself.

This is where vulnerability comes in. I’m admitting that I let the tools I use with my clients slip away. I was so busy being busy that self-care fell by the wayside.

So, I’m making a commitment – to myself and to all of you. I’m going to be kinder to myself. I’m learning to embrace the “okayness” of where I am. Better yet, I’m starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. My energy is returning, and with the spring sunshine (finally!), I’m feeling a renewed sense of purpose.

By prioritising my own needs, I can better support my family and be there for you, my clients. But most importantly, I can finally remember to live the life I love.

Stay tuned for more on how I’m incorporating self-care practices back into my life – and how you can too!

If you want to talk about how I can help you through burnout too, click here to book a free Discovery Call with me.

What has been the most surprising thing that you have either experienced, or found out, that is part of the wide range of perimenopausal symptoms?

Have you ever wondered what bit is for?

Do you even know what the menopause and perimenopause are?

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I stumbled across some shocking statistics recently.

Although nearly 8 out of 10 menopausal women are in work, 10% of them will leave their jobs due to the menopause.

That’s a lot of women struggling so much, without the right support, who leave their jobs and careers – what a huge loss for them, and also to society and the workplace!

Women in their 40s, 50s and 60s have so much to offer; still a way to go before retirement but with all that wisdom, knowledge and experience built up over the years. What a font of skill and capability; mentors, leaders, the backbone of a company’s support, and role models for younger team members.

59% of women say it has a negative impact on their work; nearly 80% experience hot flushes and/or sweats. Many women will be struggling with disrupted sleep and the tiredness and associated stress that accompanies that.

What many people don’t realise is that these symptoms start with the perimenopause; the period of time that can last years as a woman’s hormones are changing, and that lead to these symptoms. This usually starts between the ages of 45 and 55 for most women.

Do these figures shock you as much as they do me?

I love to start conversations about this; it is something that everyone will be affected by at some point – if you are not a woman who will experience this, then you definitely will be related to, living with or working with women who will!

My Empowered Menopause programme helps women who are going through this; it will improve your sleep, and reduce anxiety and physical symptoms through powerful hypnotherapy and coaching techniques.

Book a free Discovery Call with me, let’s talk about how we can make this better for you!

I’ve done a Thing. In fact, I have done two Things!

I had a great session with my coach this morning; I have noticed that I have a real problem finishing things. I’ve really been beating myself up over it, seeing it as a character flaw, something that really holds me back.

My coach helped me to reframe it – I’m really good at starting things, as I have great ideas and enthusiasm. If I’m struggling to finish something – then reach out for help. Find someone who can help me to finish it. Identify what the block is, and take action to get over it.

This is fantastic!

I have found someone to finish one Thing for me – it needs someone with a greater flair for design than me. I am so glad to hand that job over to someone who will not only do it better than me, but also will enjoy it more than me. That’s collaboration! That is working to one’s strengths. And I am loving that feeling of handing it over to a safe and competent pair of hands.

I have also pushed on through past some tech stuff that I find tricky to finish another Thing. Here it is; it’s my brand new shiny quiz and I absolutely love it – I hope you do too!

Sign up to take my 5 minute Menopause Quiz

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“Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance and order and rhythm and harmony.”
– Thomas Merton.

Have you ever felt like you just don’t have enough time? 

Like there just aren’t enough hours in the day?

I used to feel that all the time. 

I ran around being busy. And to be fair, I packed a lot into my days. I packed a lot into my life. Looking back, I can see that I was completely in Superwoman mode – you know, when you put your pants over your trousers, fasten your cape and rush around being everything to everyone – just to prove that you can.

And if you’ve ever done any work with me, you’ll know that Superwoman is really great to get things done when everything’s going to the wire, and there’s no other choice; but it’s not a great mode to be stuck in all the time. It leads to overwhelm, stress and anxiety and ultimately burnout. All the things that clients work with me to resolve – because it’s not great to feel like that. 

So, I try to practice what I preach. I do practice what I preach. I find balance in my life. 

That means that I can do the things that I need to do as well as the things that I want to do, without feeling like I’m constantly being pulled in all directions. Of course, life always happens, it always will – extra stuff gets dumped on your plate, things happen that are beyond your control. I don’t have time to do everything, and working out the priorities and how to fit them in was something I really had to work on.

One simple thing that changed for me was just changing that self-talk; my internal story, the monologue of my life. 

I used to wake up in the morning and think “I don’t have enough time”. 

I’d think about all the things that I needed to do that day and immediately tell myself  that  I couldn’t fit it all in. From the moment I opened my eyes, I felt like I didn’t have enough time.

Of course, that gets the adrenaline going right from the start. I’d get up feeling stressed and anxious. I’d go through my day feeling stressed and anxious, with my to do list constantly whirling in my head to the background song of “I don’t have enough time”. All the things that pop up on a day to day basis would appear in front of me and add to my stress. By the time I went to bed I’d be exhausted – but with all that stuff still bubbling through my head and affecting my sleep, I’d wake up feeling exhausted – ready to do it all over again.

If that sounds familiar, the first thing you can do is wake up and just tell yourself a different story. You don’t need to over-complicate this; it can be as simple as “I have enough time to do the things that I need to do”. Write it on your mirror. Leave a little note for yourself to see as you get out of bed. Any way that works for you, so you start the day with a more helpful story.

Now of course, it’s not a magic wand solution. You’re going to have to do some work as well. There’s so much we can do to help prioritise what’s important; defend your boundaries; learn to let go of the unimportant stuff, so that your time becomes your own again.

Life will always throw curve balls from time to time; things that throw you off track and make you change course. Recently a lot of upsetting things happened within my wider family; illness, bereavement, some really difficult things to deal with. Those things knocked me off track a little, and that is okay. Because things were happening that were upsetting; it’s okay to feel upset when upsetting things happen. It is okay to feel overwhelmed when lots of things happen at once.

Allowing myself to feel those emotions; giving myself time to process them and turning to people for support meant letting go of some of the other things that I really thought I should be doing. Letting go of any guilt around that was crucial.

And suddenly here we are – well into the new year now (I never do New Year resolutions anyway!) The Chinese New Year has just gone so I’ll take that as my fresh start for this year – because suddenly things are feeling a little bit more like they are going as I would like them to be. I feel more able to look forward, to make plans – and more importantly, carry them out.

I’ve been very clear about prioritising what needs to be done. I’ve been really good at reaching out for support – from other coaches, from various resources, from other people around me, and really getting on top of my scheduling and my planning. 

It’s helped enormously; and now here I am, on a Wednesday afternoon. My to do list hasn’t got way got out of hand this week. I’ve actually ticked things off my list. Today, I’ve celebrated with a wonderful long walk. Although it’s been a cloudy and showery kind of a day I decided to come to a place that means a lot to me. It’s beautiful. It is a bit of a drive from my house, and often I like to stay local because I’m just squeezing the dog walk in between everything else. 

But I took the time to drive over and found that here there’s blue sky; it’s a beautiful February afternoon. It’s quite mild for the time of year, and I’m enjoying a longer walk in beautiful surroundings. It has really made me appreciate the work I’ve done to get to this point; and think how can I help you as well? 

That is what fires me up; helping other people sort their stuff out too. So if you want some help to get on top of prioritising the important things in your life; working out how to meet your needs and find balance; working out how to juggle all the competing demands of your life – then book a discovery call with me and let’s chat and see what we can do.

My Sorceress has been hard at play this week. You know how sometimes things just seem to flow easily; you notice little coincidences, little bits of good fortune, things seem to happen at just the right time.

That’s when your Sorceress energy is flowing…. “that part of you that trusts, that dreams, and that brings a little bit of fairy dust and mystery to life”.

In all honesty, life has been tough for the past few months. We’ve been through bereavements and illness within the wider family, some real life-changing stuff; as well as some emotional and mental health issues for other family members. At times it has been hard to remember to look after myself properly though that has been my main focus – if I am okay, then I am better able to look after my loved ones. 

Life has felt a little bit hard, and like my resilience is being tested. I’m more used to life being good, thankfully! Still, at times it has felt like I have been wading through treacle. At times like these it can seem impossible for life to ever feel like it will be flowing with ease and grace again.

This week has seen a real shift. I have started to notice a few little coincidences, synchronicities that remind me of the good stuff in life. Things happening with a certain ease and flow again as if magic is happening within my life.

Last week I finally decided on my word of the year.

Flow.

I don’t do New Year’s resolutions; I prefer to work with 3 month blocks for goal setting and planning. It helps to keep things realistic and achievable! I do like to have a word of the year though, something to focus on and come back to again and again. 

Now it has come to me, and that is exactly what is starting to happen. After a great session with my coach – yes, all the best coaches have their own coach. We know how valuable it is – I started to appreciate how my life is truly starting to flow with ease and grace again. 

I noticed the little coincidences – a beautiful piece of music I had never heard before really resonated with me yesterday morning. Yesterday afternoon it popped up again in an entirely different place! I found out more about it, and the words really spoke to where I am right now.

I was chatting with my husband and friends about a wonderful weekend we spent away many years ago now which had great significance. Pictures of that weekend popped up today in the ‘Memories’ that appear in my phone’s photos and brought a huge smile to my face.

Someone I really needed to talk to suddenly popped up in my life unexpectedly.

Little signs that everything has been good before, and will be again. Little signs that everything will be okay. It is okay for me to trust in that process.

I used to struggle with the idea of magic and flow in my younger days. Goodness, how I worked so hard for all my achievements! It seemed that things weren’t worth anything unless I had struggled to get them. Now, I still enjoy working hard but how beautiful it is to do so with grace and ease.

Let the magic flow.

Did you know that there are also many others? These include:

• Loss of libido
• Anxiety & panic attacks
• Depression
• Irritability
• Itching
• Fatigue
• Joint pain
• Digestive problems
• Dizziness
• Bloating
• Body odour changes
• Increased sensitivity to smell
• Brittle nails
• Itchiness
• Muscle tension

…..and many more! They are all a result of the changes in hormone levels that your body experiences. You don’t need to simply put up with them, and not all of them are negative.

I would love to hear which ones cause you the most difficulty; and I can help to alleviate many of these. The Empowered Menopause Foundation programme is designed to do just that.

I’m no stranger to anxiety; it has been there at various points throughout my life, and over the years I have learned to recognise it, manage it and not let it dominate me or what I am doing. I have learned to lean into it a little, to let go of it and enjoy life in all its wonder and glory. 

It’s not always been an easy journey, but it is one I am immensely proud of. 

A few years ago, in my mid-40s, I suddenly started to notice that anxiety was there again, quite suddenly. It felt different to other times it had made its presence felt in my life; this felt like it came out of nowhere. It was true that some stressful stuff had been going on around me, but even so the anxiety would just suddenly come out of nowhere. It was accompanied by some intrusive thoughts, and some really quite unpleasant feelings.

In a way it wasn’t bothering me too much; all the same techniques and strategies I had learned over the years – the same ones I share with clients who experience anxiety – were working fine and helping me to feel okay. I did feel a sense of curiosity about this anxiety though, and what it was doing in my life.

I am incredibly lucky to have some wonderfully supportive local GPs where I live. I discussed what was going on, around other discussions regarding contraceptive choices – much as I love birth and babies, my family is most definitely complete! The result was that blood tests confirmed that I am perimenopausal. 

This wasn’t too much of a surprise to me, though I did find it very reassuring. I had noticed that I had gone from being the coldest person in the room, always wearing the biggest jumper, to actually not needing quite so many clothes anymore! Seeing this as a positive meant that I have ever experienced ‘hot flushes’ in any embarrassing or unpleasant way. 

One amusing effect was that the night after I received confirmation of the blood test results I suddenly woke up drenched in a night sweat. I went straight into self-hypnosis, using techniques to turn down that heat I was feeling, and taking the opportunity to have a sharp word with myself that as this had not been a problem before I knew for sure, there was no way I was going to allow it to be a problem now! Sure enough, I haven’t been bothered by another one since….

Although my GP talked me through possible treatment options, I have continued to manage my symptoms so far by focussing on my general health, and using hypnotherapy and coaching techniques. I really felt heard, and supported to make the right choices for me at this point in my life.

It makes me angry and sad in equal measure that not all women have access to such understanding and helpful GPs or medical support. So many women struggle on through, not asking for support or not receiving support if they do ask; not understanding what is happening to their bodies and what might help. 

What do you want to know about the menopause? How do you want to be treated?